Saturday, February 10, 2007

Maybe Next Year

Normally, I love Valentine's Day. LOVE Valentine's Day.
Last year, I was loving Valentine's Day.
This year, Valentine's Day is very much a pain-filled
reminder of how hard it is to subscribe to "it is better
to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all."
Difficult as it is, I still believe it. Did I really love?
Damn straight I did. Did I really lose? There are no words
to describe. Both the love and the loss are beyond word telling.

Okay, this is all just pure sap. But:

Next year I hope to be sending a dozen longstem roses.
Next year will be intimate dining.
Next year will be the prelude to many more happy (and happening)
years to come...

Whatever the circumstance, if I ever meet a woman again who,
rather early on in the relationship tells me, "Oh, by the way---
I don't cry," I'm cutting and running. I'm not putting anyone
down who may not be able to cry. But I can tell you right here and now,
I can never be with you.

I got the attached from Blue the Spa Girl. She got it from Pea.
If I knew how to make links out of words, you would be able to
just click on the Blue or the Pea and get there. Sorry, Dudes.

I just realized that you can click on the link provided at the bottom.
Happy Valentine's Day to all.

Your Candy Heart Says "Hug Me"

A total sweetheart, you always have a lot of love to give out.
Your heart is open to where ever love takes you!

Your ideal Valentine's Day date: a surprise romantic evening that you've planned out

Your flirting style: lots of listening and talking

What turns you off: fighting and conflict

Why you're hot: you're fearless about falling in love

27 Comments:

At Saturday, February 10, 2007 at 10:12:00 PM PST , Blogger Preeti Shenoy said...

This is what it said about me

You're a true romantic who brings an innocent hope to each new relationship.
You see the good in every person you date, and you relish each step of falling in love.

Your ideal Valentine's Day date: a romantic dinner your sweetie cooks for you

Your flirting style: friendly and sweet

What turns you off: cynics who don't believe in romance

Why you're hot: you always keep the romance alive

 
At Saturday, February 10, 2007 at 10:57:00 PM PST , Blogger Jacob said...

Ps: That's the one I wanted! Ha! Funny how they synthesize the data to come up with those answers. I like it. Here's a bah humbug to the cynics. And have a wonderful Valentine's Day!

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 6:50:00 AM PST , Anonymous Anonymous said...

If men weren't supposed to cry, God wouldn't have given them tear ducts! I don't like cry babies of either sex, but everyone should have the right to express their genuine, heart-felt emotion in the form of tears.

I hope your next Valentine's Day brings you your heart's desire, and that you are her heart's desire as well.

My Candy Heart was idenical to PS's.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 8:19:00 AM PST , Blogger Jacob said...

Quilly: Good point. What use is unused equipment? When you say cry babies, I think of manipulation to some selfish end. What you and I are talking about is totally different. We laugh at the funny and cry at the sad. Very simple. Very natural. Very human. I love that we can cry. Try to picture any other animal shedding tears over a perceived meaning. Blows me away. I know that many animals truly do grieve. But no one can shed tears like a human in progress.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 8:23:00 AM PST , Blogger armalicious said...

Men who can cry are alright in my book. And a woman who can't cry? Well that's just weird to me.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 8:25:00 AM PST , Blogger Katie McKenna said...

ooohh... I canna believe mine. So I think that I must been tooo distracted when I answered...lol..

I believe in love, expressing one's self.. that all feelings and thoughts have value... that every day can be a loving day.

Hugs!

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 8:26:00 AM PST , Blogger Preeti Shenoy said...

Gawpo, Atul just read your poem (that you wrote on my blog)and he is DELIGHTED.You just made his day.He wants to write to you and thank you personally.Can you send me a mail (my id is there in my profile) and I will pass it to Atul.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 8:31:00 AM PST , Blogger Jacob said...

ARM: Hola, mi hermana. Sorry I can't knock out the Sicilian. Spanish will have to do. Sometimes people have a reason not to feel the feelings that push up tears.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 8:46:00 AM PST , Blogger Joe Masse said...

Gawpo those Stepford ladies do have a certain fatal appeal. Resist! Therein lies the road to perdition and heartbreak.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 9:22:00 AM PST , Blogger Jacob said...

Joe: That's a whole angle on "Broken Birds" that I completely missed. Credit to Sean for that expression. Thank you, Giuseppe. I have taken the cure.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 10:08:00 AM PST , Blogger Jacob said...

Katie: Right on, Sistuh! Yours sounds very accurate. I'll take those hugs, too. Loved your voice on your blog. What an accent.

Ps: Email to you with mine en route. That boy is awesome. You are too.

Mr. Fab: Thank you. I was hoping maybe we could just try it with you in your mullet wig first. Whoever she is, I can only pray she can eat a banana as well as you.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 11:35:00 AM PST , Anonymous Anonymous said...

It is much better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. She's waiting somewhere Gawpo, you're too much of a catch to be alone forever.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 12:42:00 PM PST , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Gawpo, When the movie, Forest Gump, first came out I saw it in the movie theater. I went with a couple of friends, and on the advice of others, we took a box of tissue. Sure enough, at the end of the movie, we were sobbing.

To my right sat a man and a woman I'd never met. He was dressed in a business suit and wiping his tears on his tie. I handed him some tissue. As they were walking away the woman said, "I can't believe you are crying." She sounded contemptuous.

The man responded in much the same tone, "I can't believe you're not!"

And I went home twice as sad, thinking I had just witnessed the end of a relationship.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 1:23:00 PM PST , Blogger Amy said...

Valentines Day has never been a big deal to me. I guess that's why it doesn't depress me when I'm single on that day. I still think of Valentines Day pretty much the same way I thought of it in Elementary school. It was (is) a day to show everyone that they are special. Only now, I don't hand out paper cutout cards.

I've never been into the mushy part of the "holiday". EVER! But since you are into the mushiness, I guess I have to keep my eye out for a mushy carnivorous woman who cries, picks big giant boogers out of her nose, sleeps in flannel sheets with tons of blankets and likes warm toilet seats. Anything else?

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 1:57:00 PM PST , Blogger Jacob said...

Quilly: Capax lacrimi (the capacity for tears). I'm just guessing at the Latin, but I think I'm close. What I notice in your comment is the connection of tears that relinquished you and the man from the status of stranger. The man left with a stranger. Sad, that. Enough to make you cry right there.

Amy: I loved Feb 14 in elementary school. And boy oh boy, do you ever have me dialed in. You are quickly compiling my requirements for the future woman. Those criteria will do for now. There is the mandatory approval from Cindra to reckon with. More requirements forthcoming, but those will be revealed on your blog in good time.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 3:30:00 PM PST , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Gawpo-and remember, I WILL BE THE SCREENER.

Next year will be a happy mushy valentine's day...you deserve it and so it shall be...and I have a couple more questions to go toward our screening process.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 4:07:00 PM PST , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mine was : Get Real

You're a bit of a cynic when it comes to love.
You don't lose your head, and hardly anyone penetrates your heart.

Your ideal Valentine's Day date: is all about the person you're seeing (with no mentions of v-day!)

Your flirting style: honest and even slightly sarcastic

What turns you off: romantic expectations and "greeting card" holidays

Why you're hot: you don't just play hard to get - you are hard to get

Pretty accurate.

Oh, feel free to send a dozen roses this year. ::bats lashes::

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 4:12:00 PM PST , Blogger Gill said...

I have a killer instinct but can cry at the drop of a dime.
I force myself not to, maybe I am embarrassed to cry? Who knows. I think it's weak, but really, we all know crying is healing.
I like having a good cry though. It's like a good sneeze or a good...well you know.
A release is a release.
Gawpo, I wish you love, and a nice lady who will show you her emotional side.
xo
cheers friend

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 4:20:00 PM PST , Blogger Gill said...

Quilldancer
You are so right, if anyone watches that movie and doesn't cry, that is ridiculous.
I loved that movie and I still cry each time.
Sobs.
What a great movie.
Gawpo, where do you go to meet people these days? I am out of the loop.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 7:43:00 PM PST , Blogger Jacob said...

Cheen-Druh!: Yes, of course dear, dear friend. You will be the SCREENER for the next SCREAMER. I will look forward to happy and mushy. I like happy and mushy. I will do the empty pop cans on my forehead trick for her. She will love my heavy bedding and hot flannel sheets and we can make superballs out of her giant boogers.

Snavy: Batting lashes will get you everywhere. Just tell me where to ship them.

Blue TSG: The keeping tears at bay serves a purpose. The pushing against that door is not something we are born with, I don't think. There's usually a reason we don't want tears to happen. The Latin word for wound is VULNA. Tears that come from sadness are the result of our answering the knock on the door to vulnerability. That can be frightening.

Blue TSG: I don't know that I've ever been attracted to anyone who has been referred by a friend. The dating scene is very limited around here. It will just happen.

 
At Sunday, February 11, 2007 at 9:57:00 PM PST , Anonymous Anonymous said...

But Gawpo-will she be able to tolerate the heat to the point of suffocation in the auto on long road trips? Add that question to our list.

My heart read GET REAL.

 
At Monday, February 12, 2007 at 12:16:00 PM PST , Blogger Jacob said...

Cheen-Druh!: I will have to mention that to Amy so that she can add the criterion to my requirements. Thank you! I had forgotten about that one.

 
At Tuesday, February 13, 2007 at 8:24:00 PM PST , Blogger dmmgmfm said...

Mine was:

You're a bit of a cynic when it comes to love.
You don't lose your head, and hardly anyone penetrates your heart.

Your ideal Valentine's Day date: is all about the person you're seeing (with no mentions of v-day!)

Your flirting style: honest and even slightly sarcastic

What turns you off: romantic expectations and "greeting card" holidays

Why you're hot: you don't just play hard to get - you are hard to get

I think this adequately represents how I feel at this moment, but does not represent my usual feelings about love and romance.

 
At Thursday, February 15, 2007 at 12:08:00 AM PST , Blogger Jacob said...

Hi there, Laurie! Welcome, welcome. You fall into that category of what I am calling "The Hard Chicks." Oh don't get me wrong. You are in great company: Blue, Snavy to name but two. I just saw that you visited me. Delighted. Will head on over to you next.....Gawpo

 
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